For the longest time, I didn’t take myself seriously, mainly because I was surrounding myself with people who didn’t take me seriously.
At certain points I knew this, sure, but it is so difficult to ignore energies that do not serve us, especially if a relationship of any kind is at stake.
It takes time to come to terms with that, I think for anyone.
However, if a relationship requires us to sacrifice our own self-worth, it is not a relationSHIP. It is an unbalanced boat that will eventually sink. One sided relationships that take too much of us don’t serve anyone involved.
I realized after some time - with several people in my life - that if I wanted to feel safe and whole within my body, I had to let them go.
I read recently that if the bridge needs to burn then you probably don’t need that bridge anyway.
If you’re a softer spirit like me, that’s hard to hear.
If we zoom out into the bigger picture however, we have to realize that no-one is responsible for our lives but us. We don’t get to control how other people are, and they don’t get to control us.
So, for me it came down to this question:
Am I willing to stay in this space, taking hit after hit to my confidence and self-worth for this relationship that is genuinely doing more harm to me than good?
We like to latch onto memories. We like to convince ourselves that we can deal with it.
I decided to ponder what could be if I took myself seriously instead. And guess what happened?
A lot of relationships fell away.
And relationships that were here to stay, well, they changed. Those folks now really respect me, because I am firmly planted in my truth.
The juiciest part is…when I decided to take myself seriously and believe in ME, I attracted a number of new friendships that really filled me up.
Because when we are best friends with ourselves, we lead with love, and we honor who we are entirely, the folks that resonate with that come to us.
Surround yourself with people who make you feel on top of the world. You are worthy of that kind of love.