Doing Hard Things
Doing Hard Things With Grace
February 2, 2021
I’m in the middle of doing a really hard thing.
This transformative moment in my life requires a healthy dose of surrender as well as smart, strategic planning.
Though I don’t feel ready to share, I will say this.
If there’s something in your life that’s hard right now - a situation, a circumstance, an adult thing, a relationship...bless the sh*t out of your process.
There are so many "what if’s" that could leave you here and there. So many of us go right to thinking about the worst thing that could happen.
How will I be received if I set that boundary?
What happens if I let myself truly feel?
What will they think of me if I ___?
What if I fail at ___?
What if the person that is doubting me is right?
What if the pain I’m feeling never goes away?
It’s natural for our human brains to think about the future and project on what “could be “if we did X, Y, or Z.
So I decided to do an experiment over the last few weeks. Instead of thinking about the anxiety - that was and is still very much present - I thought I would try pouring love into my process.
Every time my mind takes the lead and concerns itself with doubt, I drop into my center.
Rinse and repeat.
I say, “I continue to pour love into every process that feels scary and unknown”. In doing this, I actively create space for grace, and for my own human emotions, without letting them take the wheel.
Surrender is an act of detachment. When we detach from how we think things “should”/“would”/ “could” play out in our lives, we open ourselves up to possibilities.
What if this decision is what is needed to propel you forward on your path?
What if that boundary is well received and actually deepens your relationships?
What if this process is here to teach you more about yourself?
What could you create in your life if you just stopped listening to the doubt?
You have the power, and also, your process is just right.
I have this little promise to myself to remain open, even though so much of my life feels uncertain and answers are unknown.
Since this, I’ve noticed that hard conversations I’ve had are flowing with ease.
My communication is clearer and more aware.
Synchronicities are aligning.
Support is coming through from the right people at the right times.
Abundance is coming through in pleasant, sweet surprises.
With this awareness, I know I have choice over my energy, and how much to give to others.
With this awareness, I practice trusting myself, again and again and again.
With this awareness, I stay present and take things one step at a time.
I know I am always safe.
We attract what we are. What we embody, we become. We become what we give our attention to. And so on…
Everything is working out best case scenario for you. When you believe this, it’s empowering.
So let it go.
Continue to pour love into your process.
Ease up on yourself just a little bit, and see what this perspective brings through for you.
And as always, lead with curiosity. You might be surprised at what you find.
You are safe and supported.